It is a bummer that Mike took off his earth suit so soon. In some ways, I thought we were just getting started on our life together. We’d been married for just 4 and a half years. I could see how we were both sanding off the bumps and corners of each other as we evolved our life together. I do know that in pushing the eject button on his earth suit, Mike realized a more expansive sense of who he is – that Love Life essence that never changes.
Over the past few months prior to Mike’s transition, I had been noticing and appreciating the ordinariness of our relationship – the everyday little things. Just having Mike at home – whether he was napping or reading, or cooking together, or watching a movie together with our daughter. We loved dinner and a movie at home or going out. We loved to cook and entertain our friends. It was fun to plan what we were each going to make. I do have to mention his amazing lobster bisque. One sip and I wanted to marry him. Thank goodness this is one recipe that IS written down. I am grateful that I was noticing and appreciating the ordinary gems in our relationship. I do miss both of us cooking in the kitchen together – it is what our remodeled kitchen was designed for. I miss the we.